While your marriage may not be exactly like mine, I know we all have difficulties. That’s life. So, today I want to share with you the things that have gotten me through my not so happily ever after.
1. Keep your relationship with God strong.
I have been on both sides of this. At some points, I remained strong in my faith, trusted God, and spent time with Him. Other times, I got angry, questioned God, and pulled away. I can say that it definitely makes things more bearable when you are drawing close to Him. Fill your mind with scripture and listen to good, Christian music. Then, when you’re going through the hard times those scriptures and song lyrics will come back to you.
Sometimes you feel as if this is all you can do. Pray by yourself and pray with your spouse. Be honest in your prayers. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling God that you don’t understand why something is happening or you wish things weren’t the way they are. Remember, though, that God is not a genie who grants wishes. I have prayed and prayed and prayed for my husband’s sickness to go away and it hasn’t. I continue to pray, though, and trust God in His sovereignty.
3. Be thankful.
No matter how bad things may seem, there’s always something to be thankful for. Along with praying for healing for my husband, I also tried to remember to thank God for the things we did have. Having a heart of gratitude will really change your attitude. It helps to remember the blessings God has given you. Sometimes it may be as simple as thank you that I’m alive, thank you that I have a roof over my head, or thank you that I have a washing machine and don’t have to wash clothes by hand. Don’t take anything for granted.
4. Intentionally spend time with your spouse.
No matter what you have going on, you need to make time to spend with your spouse. This doesn’t mean sitting in the same room while one of you reads and the other is on the computer. This means sitting down and having dinner together, taking a walk, or putting together a puzzle. Don’t let the circumstances in your life put a wedge in your marriage. If you’re not careful, this can definitely happen.
5. Have a support system.
Even though we live 10 hours away from our families, they made several visits to help us during the worst times. We also had some very loving friends and church family who helped us through. It can be hard to ask for help or to tell someone your weaknesses. However, we were created for relationships. We need each other. It can be such a relief to know that you’re not alone.
How has your marriage survived hard times?